Six Essential Steps to Healing
The loss of someone close to us profoundly changes our lives, marking a difficult journey from what was to what now is.
True healing isn’t found by avoiding grief but rather by embracing it and expressing the emotions we feel in a meaningful way.
Grief vs. Mourning
Grief is the internal experience of loss, while mourning is the external act of expressing that grief. Actively mourning helps us process grief and move forward.
Though everyone’s journey is unique, there are six universal steps to healing that provide a foundation for moving toward peace and a renewed sense of purpose.
Step 1: Facing the Reality of Loss
One of the first steps to healing is coming to terms with the reality that a loved one is gone. Accepting this new reality doesn’t happen instantly; it often unfolds over time, as we revisit memories, share stories, and talk through the events of their passing.
It’s essential to give yourself patience and grace in accepting this truth.
Step 2: Allowing Space for the Pain
While it’s natural to want to avoid pain, healing requires that we make space for it. Taking time to process sadness in manageable amounts, returning to it when ready, and engaging with it deeply can be cathartic.
Though society may encourage us to “be strong,” truly honoring grief means allowing yourself to feel the depth of the pain.
Step 3: Cherishing Their Memory
The connection to a loved one doesn’t end with their passing; it lives on through memories and keepsakes. Keeping photos, telling stories, and holding onto shared traditions allows us to continue that bond.
Embracing these memories supports healing, helping us honour the past while finding hope in the future.
Step 4: Redefining Your Sense of Self
Losing a loved one changes how we define ourselves. Roles like “spouse,” “parent,” or “child” may evolve, challenging us to adapt and redefine our identity.
As we take on new responsibilities and face life without their presence, we may discover strengths and qualities within ourselves that help us navigate this new chapter.
Step 5: Reflecting on Life’s Purpose
Loss often stirs profound questions about life’s meaning and our beliefs. We may find ourselves searching for understanding, questioning “Why?” or “What now?”
Through this reflection, many find a greater sense of purpose, spiritual clarity, or personal growth that reshapes their view of life moving forward.
Step 6: Seeking Sustained Support
Healing is not a solitary journey. The care and support of friends, family, or grief professionals play a significant role in helping us process emotions.
Because grief can take months or even years to reconcile, having supportive people to lean on provides comfort and encouragement, making it easier to walk through this journey.
Embracing Reconciliation
Healing from grief is not about “getting over” it but finding a way to integrate the loss into our lives. Reconciliation brings a softened sense of pain, an acceptance of life’s changes, and a willingness to move forward.
Memories of our loved one remain, but with time, we gain strength, hope, and a renewed ability to embrace the future.
Helpful Links:
Local Grief Support Groups
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Next Steps After
The Funeral Service
After the funeral service, you will need to handle important tasks, such as notifying financial institutions, settling the estate, and closing accounts. It’s also helpful to review any eligible benefits, such as survivor pensions or insurance claims, and consider seeking grief support if needed.
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