How to Deal with Special Days and Holidays
Grief can feel especially overwhelming during special days and holidays. Birthdays, anniversaries, and seasonal celebrations often bring back a flood of memories, intensifying the sense of loss. These are the moments when absence is felt most deeply — when a loved one’s laughter, presence, and traditions are no longer part of the day.
Supporting someone through these difficult times requires empathy, patience, and understanding. For those grieving, it’s important to acknowledge that these days will be hard and that it’s okay to feel sad, to cry, or to skip celebrations entirely. There is no “right” way to grieve, and each person must find their own path. Some helpful strategies include creating new rituals that honour the person who has passed, setting realistic expectations with family and friends, and allowing yourself permission to step back from festivities when needed.
Simple gestures — such as lighting a candle, sharing stories, or volunteering in your loved one’s memory — can provide comfort and connection. If you’re supporting someone who is grieving, offer your presence rather than solutions. Let them talk, listen without judgment, and don’t be afraid to mention the loved one’s name.
Just knowing they’re not alone in their memories can be a powerful source of healing. Grief changes over time, but special days will always carry meaning. With compassion and support, it’s possible to face them with grace — and even moments of peace.
